How do people act spontaneously

Spontaneity: 7 simple tips on how to become more spontaneous immediately

Plans give security, but spontaneity makes you happy. We don't mean the naive informality - in a positive sense - of spontaneously drinking coffee with a stranger, for example. Rather, we are talking about that characteristic trait of simply doing something unplanned out of the blue. Without good reason, just like that. This spontaneity is not only an essential key to success, but also the secret of happiness in life. An appeal and tips on how to become more spontaneous ...

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Spontaneity or spontaneity? - Spelling & meaning

Since the spelling reform, both spellings have been correct: spontaneity AND spontaneity. But where does the “e” in “spontaneity” actually come from? Short answer: from French or late Latin. Our German word originally comes from the French "spontanéité", which in turn goes back to the Latin "spontaneus". In German: "voluntarily" or with "spontis" = "free will". The current meaning of the term is often defined as “willingness to act impulsively and flexibly”.

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Why is spontaneity a key to success?

Making a plan and implementing it step by step organizes everyday life and gives it structure. Plans prevent forgetfulness, protect against mistakes and consider details. Clear concepts, fixed dates, routines and procedural rules - all good. But spontaneity also suffers as a result. And not only that: Life itself is given less “leeway”. Predictability encourages boredom. Not a good idea.

This is not a plea for the pleasure principle. It is still one thing against systematic, rational action. Plans (also a plan B) are important to achieve the goals behind them. But they lead us all too easily on the concrete path of hardly reflected habits, traditions and pseudo-security. Plans have the unpleasant side effect of letting us down and narrowing our view of a narrow tunnel exit.

Our need for control narrows the leeway

Unfortunately, it is like this: People prefer to move on safe and familiar paths. An all-encompassing need for control has been instilled into us. Feelings of powerlessness make us insecure, scare us, and cause stress. That is why everything is planned and made as predictable as possible. The main thing is not to make mistakes and avoid embarrassment.

But at some point we just listen to the rules. We no longer dare to do something that has not been sufficiently thought out and planned in advance. We're even fighting it, fighting it because it now feels uncomfortable and scary. In short: we have walled up our own minds and we still defend this narrow-mindedness. Dangerous! Especially because life in its entirety can never be planned anyway and nothing is more certain than the prospect of the unforeseen.

As John Lennon once said so beautifully: “Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.” The writer Martin Mosebach put it this way: “You don't have to worry about the new. That comes naturally. "

Improvising, associating, adapting

Anyone who desperately stares at the fulfillment of their plan is most likely overlooking a unique opportunity that opens up off the beaten track. And it is precisely these opportunities that have produced dream careers or a fulfilled life.

Talented improviser is often misunderstood as a sign of incompetence. The opposite is true: it is an important problem-solving skill. The ability to adapt and adapt is inherent in the spontaneous. Such people can associate, adapt, improvise at any time. And those who can improvise are able to spontaneously find a solution to a problem at any time with the means that are currently available to him or her.

This ability can take you far, and not just in your job. A lack of spontaneity, on the other hand, makes it predictable and socially inflexible. Some researchers even warn against it could lead to an excessive need for security and an abnormal social structure.

Test: How easily can you change habits?

Habits and everyday routines often stand in the way of spontaneity. You can test how difficult it is to change them here and now with the help of a small self-experiment:

To do this, please fold your hands as if in prayer, fingers interlocked, thumbs on top of each other.

OK? Now just change the position of your thumbs so that the other one is on top! How does that feel? Unusual, right? Maybe even uncomfortable and wrong ?! The US psychologist Dawna Markova found that it took us around two weeks just to get used to such a simple attitude.

Until then, the brain is firing incessant signals to consciousness: “Alarm! Something is wrong there !!! ”And that's only because two thumbs are not on top of each other as usual! One cannot even imagine what happens when we want to free ourselves from a much more weighty daily routine ...

Attack of courage: the art of being impulsive

A spontaneous journey into the unknown - even if only mentally - not only gives our life the spice and substance for numerous bedtime stories with the grandchildren. It trains our courage muscles.

Of course it doesn't really exist. The metaphor aptly illustrates how courage and spontaneity behave if we cultivate them regularly: the more we train them, the stronger they become. Spontaneity doesn't get worse because it's less difficult.

Above all, being spontaneous is a matter of will. You have to want to be spontaneous and impulsive. Whoever achieves and trains both over and over again will achieve more wealth in the long run than with all plans combined. We thereby gain priceless experiences, experiences, memories.

Who knows, maybe you have just found the man of your life or the woman of your dreams. It wouldn't surprise us.

7 tips for more spontaneity

If it only occurs to you in retrospect what he or she could have done better, you should read on. "Too late" does not know spontaneity. A little more informality is good for all of us. So here are a few tips and suggestions to help you become more spontaneous and work on your spontaneity.

1. Think less - do it!

The German tends to brood and analyze. Not all bad properties. But anyone who tends to rethink and reflect on everything umpteen times freezes. Thinking ahead and thinking from time to time is okay. But don't think and babble your ideas and impulses to death either. All of that gets you nowhere. Just do it. Could be good!

2. Don't be shy!

Stop hesitating and jump over your own shadow. It doesn't matter what others think! Spontaneity doesn't wait for the best time to turn a project into reality. There never is. While others are still wondering if it's really a good idea, the spontaneous have already come halfway. Who dares wins - especially in self-confidence.

3. Leave the comfort zone!

Those who move on familiar territory rarely experience surprises, hardly take risks and meet expectations. It is pleasant and quiet in the comfort zone. But also dangerous: If you only move within the usual framework, you will not develop further and will make yourself comfortable in a dead end.

Get out! Overcome your shyness, try new things, take risks - it doesn't have to be a weekend in Paris right away. A walk in the rain or a night hike through the city is a great place to start.

4. Do less!

The tighter you grasp your plans and plan the day through, the less room there is for spontaneous things. Unfortunately, free spaces have the characteristic that they have to be created. Of course, it would be nonsense to reserve the time between 7 p.m. and 9 p.m. for spontaneous activities in the calendar. What else is spontaneous about that? But by planning in buffers and doing less during the day, you open up spaces for immediate action.

5. Live the moment!

Spontaneity lives in the here and now. She uses, enjoys and respects the moment. In the spirit of “Carpe Diem!” And the concept of mindfulness. Those who just stare into the future or mourn the past miss the present. So listen more to your intuition and your acute needs - and “live” the moment.

6. Gain experience!

Reading educates. But no book or video can replace your own experiences. Try to remember a few highlights in your life! Stories You Would Tell Grandchildren. Very few would tell things like: "and then made a career plan and worked my way up the career ladder step by step ..." What you would tell are those totally crazy ideas and spontaneous actions that burn themselves into our memories. Because they were so crazy and spontaneous. We'll remember it years later with a glow in our eyes when we talk about it and rave about it. Speaking of which: what are you trying out today?

7. Gain freedom!

Spontaneous people are thrilling. Hardly anyone can resist her persuasiveness and charisma. Not even initial doubters. Why?
Because their positive energy is autonomous. Mentally independent and self-determined. Free yourself from expectations, beliefs or the dictates of "That's how it is". Don't let that unsettle you - and do your thing. Quite spontaneously.

8 things that spontaneous people (only) understand

Spontaneous people regularly struggle with prejudice. Your spontaneity is only erratic. A pretty word dress for unreliability. There is actually a big misunderstanding about spontaneity behind this. They usually dissolve when you understand what is going on in impulsive minds and where their sudden change of heart comes from.

So here's a list of things that spontaneous people understand all too well:

  1. You can get excited about anything.
    There is nothing that the spontaneous does not find exciting in some way. Spontaneously traveling by car, going to your favorite team's game at short notice or going to the quarry pond late at night in the summer heat? All options promise to be as interesting as they are exciting. So it remains open until the last second what you decide on.
  2. You are not afraid.
    Most people are afraid of embarrassing themselves in public. No action is too embarrassing for spontaneous people. So it can happen that in the city center you dance to the loud music on your cell phone. When you have the impulse to watch the sunset on the roof, thoughts of possible falls and broken bones are hidden.
  3. You know plans are changing.
    Make plans - what for? Life itself is spontaneous and unpredictable. This is neither malicious nor inconsiderate. Attitude is part of their personality. Even if you are determined to meet an appointment, something surprising can still happen that captivates your attention and suppresses everything else.
  4. They love meeting new people.
    Every new contact offers the opportunity to learn something new. Maybe you meet a skydiver who is still looking for a partner for the next jump. Or the colleague reports on his travels to Asia and Africa. Spontaneous people excite such stories. You give them ideas.
  5. You always need to do something.
    If you rest, you rust. - This could be the life motto of spontaneous people. Just sitting around and doing nothing is pure horror for them. It doesn't always have to be extraordinary. But it should never be boring.
  6. You know the negative side of spontaneity.
    Most spontaneous people have already done things out of zeal that they may regret today. That is the price of impulsiveness. Sometimes you do stupid things. You have to be responsible for the consequences, no question about it. But don't dare to do anything anymore? That would be like dying - only before.
  7. You want to be there, not just watch.
    Regardless of whether it is a party after work or a short trip to the North Sea: It is not enough for spontaneous people to hear about exciting things. You want to experience it yourself and be right in the middle of it.
  8. They are great problem solvers.
    When it comes to solving an unforeseen problem, spontaneity can be hugely helpful. Because they don't think in a fixed way and are unbiased, spontaneous creative solutions find that nobody else comes up with.

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