Is Don Cherry a bad person?

Cherry Picks # 7

Burnout is a buzzword. At least when it comes to German employees. More and more people are suffering from burnout in our performance society, no wonder, but migrants hardly appear in the statistics. What might that be? The author Fatma Aydemir wrote about the phenomenon and provides an explanation:“You always have to work twice as hard as the Germans if you want to achieve something.” We all know this sentence. We have internalized it and it is as difficult to get rid of it as the catchy tune of an Ariana Grande song. " Exciting insights into a world that is so close and yet so far. I am always grateful for those insights that ensure more understanding, tolerance and different perspectives. The text appeared as an advance copy in Spiegel, more of which can be found in the anthology "Your home is our nightmare". A book that will definitely make it onto my desk.

The prevailing news this week was the death of Karl Lagerfeld. The grand master of fashion, one of the last of his kind, if you like to put it that way, died in Paris at the age of 85. The fashion world mourns - and yet there remains a small, bitter aftertaste. Because as great as his work was, he must be viewed critically as a (public) person. The one-sided view of Karl Lagerfeld's post mortem not only struck me - and should be a topic on amazed again next week. Until then, I'll leave you the exciting and discussion-worthy article by Vice here as well as an obituary by Leandra Medine, which at least shed light on the end of an era and the two sides of Karl Lagerfeld.

Hate comments on the Internet are almost part of everyday life for many, and yet it always shocks me how mercilessly people impose and insult their opinion on people without being asked. Nothing is stranger to me and I often suffer when people flaunt their wickedness in the anonymity of the Internet. Fortunately, it rarely hits us, other authors have to reckon with more headwinds here. The column “My thick life” in the Süddeutsche Zeitung was a prime example here. People gave free rein to their hatred of fat people on Facebook and Twitter, and I was horrified how many people can be so unreflectively angry. Constructive criticism is always allowed, but what happened here was only one thing: pure hatred and malice. The column ends now - and in her last episode, the author Natalie Rosenke refers to all the people who commented so badly. “It cannot make up for what these trolls are doing in my life and in the lives of many others. Nevertheless, I take something away from these experiences: The certainty that I have to actively do more for acceptance as a first step towards a we-society in which everyone has the same value. " What a strong conclusion she draws. I don't know if I could have done that after all these comments.
What definitely applies to each of us: Always think before you speak or write. What you don't want to experience yourself shouldn't be done to anyone else. And: sometimes it's better to keep your mouth shut.

Garance Doré describes how important - or simply unimportant - a person's weight is in her article this week. She gained weight, for the first time in a long time, because she let go of conventions, of her own rules and of a life that she no longer wanted to lead. The goal was to finally establish a relationship with yourself and your body that consists of trust and benevolence. The road to self-love is always a long one, it never ends, and it is probably a decision every day that turns out better or worse. Your openness about the fight with yourself, the inner demons, which you just can't always control, and the creeping acceptance of weight gain makes you more than sympathetic. "In the meantime, I don’t know how you all are doing, but me, I gained a little weight. Nothing dramatic, no big deal - it happens. " Let us focus on our inner values, our body only has to do one thing: be healthy.

Language is always a mirror of our society. We shape the view of things with our words. One of the phrases that we should have deleted from our linguistic usage is “strong women”. When are women strong? What if they assert themselves in a male domain? What if they are heard in public? What if they take a place that was otherwise only given to men? Yes - in the public eye it is never just a woman, but a strong woman. Which suggests that we shouldn't just be women, but should stand out in the crowd of masculinity. Author Matthias Dell from Deutschlandfunk also noticed this phenomenon at the Berlinale. “No, we were talking about normal women. What qualifies them as "strong women" is simply the fact that they were the main characters in their films. How silly this phrase is can be shown by the cross-check: When men play leading roles in films, nobody writes of “strong men”. Why? Because the question does not arise, because it is normal: men play the main roles in films. " How sad and so important at the same time. Language shapes - and that is why we will delete the adjective "strong" from now on.

And after all the difficult, but very important topics, a little Instagram tip: I have another major fashion crush. I don't know what happened, but Instagram is my new Tumblr-Pinterest fashion inspiration tool. It hasn't been for a long time, maybe it's because of my springtime fashion mood. Say hello to Ida Sjunneson! No Scandinavian combines logo bags with hoodies so nicely. Sure, a bit very typical influencer, but hey, that's okay every now and then.

Photo credit: Garance Doré, Idasjunneson, Unsplash